So, you’re thinking about moving out?!

(Disclaimer: I have a legal young adult of my own, who presented me the idea of leaving the family nest). She is a responsible young lady with a good head over her shoulders, she is attending college, has a drivers license and a vehicle. As a blogger, I was inspired to write a post on this experience as other parents may experience a similar situation. As a mom, I will have a sit down conversation this weekend with my young adult over coffee to discuss aspects to consider when moving out on her own.)

Moving out involves lots of expenses

Prior to our sit down conversation, I did some research on the type of expenses she will expect (or potentially) pay:

  • Apartment rental application fee, non-refundable
  • Deposit fee, non-refundable
  • Electricity deposit (This is not included with apartment)
  • Internet  (This is not included with apartment)
  • Rental insurance
  • Water deposit (This is not included with apartment)
  • Moving vehicle, 48 hour rental

Home expenses she will have to consider

Since she been in the family nest for the last 18 years, I am 99.9 percent positive she has not considered the expenses that involve setting up her apartment,  such as:

  • Home furnishings and basic items
    • Kitchen table
    • Couch
    • Curtains
    • Bathroom (rugs, shower curtains)
    • Dishes and eating ware
    • Cooking ware
    • Cooking utensils
    • Washer and dryer (this is not included with apartment)

Basic home necessities such as:

  • Food
  • Toiletries
  • Paper towels

Long term Apartment living expenses

After she gets settled into her new apartment, she will be responsible to pay all monthly expenses in full and on time, such as:

  • Rent
  • Electricity deposit
  • Internet  
  • Rental insurance
  • Water deposit
  • Food
  • Toiletries
  • Gas

These questions present themselves here: Can she keep up with monthly expenses on her own? If she can’t, will she have to look for a roommate just to keep up? Or will she have to look for another job? Or quit school to keep her apartment? Will she be able to afford all monthly expenses, AND still be able to eat and have enough gas to get to school, work and home?

To some, this post may seem too obvious, I am discouraging my young adult from leaving the family nest …No! Of course not, although, I am in no hurry for her to leave me! However, as a mom, I need have an open dialogue about her moving out, and explain her quest to move out on her own may be more expensive than she imagined. Her BIG DESIRE to move out on her own does not match her small bank account! She just graduated from high school and still very new to being an adult. It’s my job to her give guidance on how to best take on her endeavor of being on her own. If she has to live with me a little while longer while she attends college, I will be okay with that.

Have you experienced a similar situation with your young adult wanting to leave the family nest? Let’s discuss this over some coffee!


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