Over the weekend, a very dear friend of mine passed very quickly and unexpectedly.
I have since cried a trillion tears mourning over the passing of my friend because I don’t want to accept that she is gone. In my head, I am convinced she is napping.
My friend, Ms. Jay was an elderly woman, whom I met through my aunt. My aunt and Ms. Jay had been good friends for many years. Ms. Jay won my heart over, she quickly became my friend and extended family.
She was a sweet and kind lady, willing to help whenever someone was in need – cooking, housework, sewing, babysitting, anything you needed, she was always there! She told me, “I can help with most anything, but I don’t know how to drive!”
She was an awesome fabric crafting magician. She tailored old flannel button down men’s shirts into stylish women’s outfits, aprons, bags, etc. Her sewing work was seamless… I always told her that I hope to be as good as her someday. We used to joke about her fabric collection, She did not just collect fabric, she hoarded fabric! Any fabric you could imagine, she had it!
To my little girl, Ms. Jay was Nana. Nana and LahLah shared cold chai tea together – it was their thing that they both looked forward to. Ms. Jay would sip on chai tea while LahLah had chai tea flavored ice cubes. Should my 2-year-old toddler have chai tea flavored cubes? Probably not! But I did not mind at all because it made them both very happy! Ms. Jay was such a celebrity in LahLah’s eyes.
Our Last Conversation
Our last conversation we had was about two weeks ago. We spoke about making baby blankets for my newborn due in May. She said she found some cotton fabric in her collection for the baby, and will bring it by the next she comes to visit LahLah.
As I helped Ms. Jay to the front door to leave, we hugged. We both agreed to see each other again in two weeks to watch LahLah. She rubbed my belly and said, “Be a good boy for mommy, I love you.” I wished her a good day and said I love you. She looked at me and smiled, she said “I love you, girl! I will see you soon.” As I watched her walk away, I did not think it would be the last time I would see her.
My heart will ache indefinitely.
After my delivery in May, I wanted her to visit with the baby, because I knew it would make her so happy. She would have two babies to share cold chai tea with.
It has been 2 days since I learned about Ms. Jay’s passing, my brain is still rejecting the fact she is gone because I don’t want to believe it. I am expecting to see her in two weeks.
Family is Everything
The news of my dear friend’s passing quickly made me put things in perspective. It has made me appreciate my family so much more, reminding me Family is Everything!
I called my parents reminding them to stay indoors, and tell them, I love them. My dad is currently sick with allergies! I am praying for a full recovery for him and a super charged prayer that his stubbornness does not cloud his judgment to leave the house!
I held on to my little girl a little while longer. Embraced my husband, told him how grateful I am to have him in my life. I said a prayer of thanks for our little one due in May. I called my sisters to tell them I love them and stay safe!
We don’t know how much time we have here on earth, so it is absolutely important to make connections with our families. Regardless of what is going on in our day, or how busy life gets, or how dizzy work schedules become, find the time, reach out to your family and loved ones… let them know you love them, give them a hug, embrace them a little longer, make the time to get together.
To put things in a practical viewpoint, if we make the time to eat, sleep, drink coffee, download a smart phone app, wake up to get ready for work – we can make time, sometime in a 24 hour period, we can reach out to our family members to have a quick conversation; ask how are they are doing?; say I love you…because we may not get another opportunity. Time is not a constant that we can rely on.
As our world faces this invisible, faceless monster pandemic, we are all forced into personal quarantine for both the sick and healthy, while conducting ourselves in social distancing manner. This pandemic has built invisible walls that divides us all. However, it should not keep us from loosing sight of our families or prevent us from making human connections. Thank goodness for phone lines and internet!
My friends, please be safe. I hope all this well, or getting better. I am sending positive vibes your way and saying prayers for all.